Growing and glowing.
Life is beautiful. Life is
empowering. Life is so much peaceful. Life is so worth it. Life is you.
Life is always teaching me, so here
it is- 23 years, 23 new lessons you taught me.
23. Your past is important,
but not important that right now.
Your mistakes don't necessarily
have to define you. No one is saint. No one is perfect as per standards. Everyone
is just human. And it's your choice whether you want the past to be you, or you
want to create a new you. But, as much as it is your choice, it lies on your
partner too. Be it a friend, a soulmate, your love, if they won't let it go.. You
just can't.
22. Patience can at times be
your biggest strength.
If there is one thing I could never
imagine doing was being patient. It was my biggest vices of all. Yet, now.. I
can wait. I can wait for hours. I can wait to hear back when someone needs
space. I can wait for them to reach home safe, even if it is in the middle of
the night. I can wait for anything now. And this really has grown as my biggest
strengths, for now I can always wait for good things to happen.
21. Talk. Always talk.
I was barely vocal with stuff. I would let
worries and assumptions and vague statements to consume the peace of heart
rather than simply ask. But now, I know that we should always talk. Talk about everything.
It might be hard for the first time, but ones you do it, you will know the
perk. Talking might not always solve the problem but it will never leave you
hanging in there. And this peace if worth everything.
20. Tip: Too much maturity
can be draining.
Do not burden yourself with so much
maturity that the child inside you dies out. Have fun. Have fun in everything
and see how everything will be a top notch perfect.
19. Inspiration can lead you
into doing anything.
I think deep down we all believe
that we can do whatever we want. It is the monopoly of our hearts. We think
that only if we are led to believe that we have it within us, we can achieve
all that we want. And nothing can be truer than this. All it takes is that
spark of inspiration you see in their eyes when they tell you that you can do
it. Not only does it gives you the undeniable power of transforming the world,
you actually end up seeing yourself differently.
18. Real happiness lies in
making others happy.
Nothing competes with the
satisfaction of hearing your loved ones laugh. Oh the sound! Without thinking,
without any ulterior motives you end up grinning ear to ear. And that is the best
of happiness. It does not have to lie in you, it is sometimes in the most
selfless things you do for others.
17. Be with the ones who
always bring you up.
I think everyone has it in them.
Everyone can do wonders because we are all THE ONES. It is like I came to
realization that numerous times we are brought down by people who are close to
us. So now I know that whatever you love to do, no matter what the scale of it
don't let go just because someone told you it is useless. Instead find the ones
who are supportive of you. They won't do it
too, they don't even have to understand it sometimes, but they will always be
loving and respectfully support you. They will bring you up as high as they can
and never will they try to push you down.
16. Always give
wholeheartedly.
Everything given from the heart is priceless.
From time to efforts, to gifts to smiles. Do not think to get reciprocated or
even appreciated for what you do. Because you might give one thing and they
might give another, and both of them is just as priceless. Just as necessary,
just as complete.
15. Saying "no" at
the right time is mandatory.
I never truly learned this. I am still struggling
but I am still trying. I am definitely not done with this. Thank you for
teaching me that no one should be pleased at the expense of my emotional
wellbeing. After all, a no at the right time can be a good thing.
14. Change is inevitable in
life.
Some of us are scared of how things might be
in the future. I guess we all are. For me, slightest of changes can be an
offset. But now, with every minute transitions I know that you cannot stop it.
Change is inevitable in life. From our routine to our roles, everything will
change. I guess can always adapt for it as long as everything changes except
for your feelings.
13. Everyone loves
differently.
There is no scale, no standard, absolutely
no way to quantify love. Everyone has their own way, and I would
rather have you love me with who you are than to pressurize you into something
that might end up into flipping the axis. It is just about recognizing.
12. Choose your friends
wisely.
Look for who has ever said: “I am here for
you.” and proved it. That’s it. See, quality, not quantity. Even if you’re left
with one friend who would stand up for you and help you at the end of the day,
that is more than enough.
11. Never second guess after
you tell them you trust them.
This year is all about believing in people. So
why mess it up by second guessing things? If someone tells you how things are
let them be. Why sit and think of all theories of opposing? Ever since I
eliminated this toxic trait and learned to say okay on things, everything is
smoother. Better. Happier.
10. Focus on strengths.
One of the major downsides of time it that as
you get to know someone more, you actually start focusing more on their
weaknesses than the strengths that attracted you in the first place. Look around.
How many people are bringing each other up, focusing on one another's
strengths? How many people are picking up on the negative qualities and
focusing on those instead? I believe that the ones who are shrouded with
positivity will always remember that negativity is bad news. You just need to always
remember the first smiles you ever shared and all will be okay in your heart. Just
like that.
9. Complain less,
appreciate more.
Complaining with get you nowhere.
It will just deepen the pit. So breathe in, breathe out. Close your eyes. Smile
and understand that they are with you. Even if they don't say it out loud, even
if they don't always ask everything.. they know it into their hearts that you
are with them. So you might as well start appreciating the fact that you belong
together. Start recognizing that now you have almost all that you once wished
for.
8. If something consumes a
lot of energy, let it go.
Focus on solutions instead of problems,
if something consumes lot of energy and has no possible solution just let it go.
Give in to the situation and see how things will truly fall into place as long
as you believe in the best.
7. Anything hidden is
wrong.
Be honest. Be 100% honest and straightforward.
Do not lie. Treat people as a reflection of your own and that means keeping the
other one informed. This is the one thing that will hold it all together. You
may have nothing, but if you’re honest with one another then you are rich in
love.
6. The purest of efforts are
effortless.
Precisely, just be you, let them
just be them. Know that love can make you do crazy, wild, unthinkable things,
but it also has the power to make you into one of the kindest, most generous
people in the world. It all depends upon how you do things, not how much.
5. There can be versions of
you.
Ever thought how different you are with
different people? How one will describe you as heartless while for the other
one there might not be someone as kind as you. Why is this so? I think there
are certain versions of us that even we ourselves are oblivious of. Unless it
surfaces on top. Now you be one for the other, but with the right ones you will
always be the best versions of yourself. And that person will even surprise
you! The things you’d do with them, for them will leave you thinking that you
never knew you had it in you. You will become the best version of yourself. For
them. With them. Because of them. Think not about what the other person
is or does, but how that person makes you feel and act. And it can be just by
being who they are. Just themselves.
4. Happiness can be found
anywhere.
World is a very large place. It has
many reasons to be sad. But very few reasons to be happy. So focus on the few.
And they will be enough for you to know that you don’t really have to switch on
the light to find happiness in the darkness, you just have to open your heart
to them.
3. Nothing can compete with
the satisfaction of knowing that someone believes in you 100%.
I am a big believer myself. I have always
believed in the honesty of hearts. And this is why, nothing, literally nothing
can compete with this. Having someone who believes in you 100%. Either be that person,
or be with that person. But just don’t let yourself be empty of this trait. This
satisfaction. Honestly, it is the biggest of blessings. Get poured with this
lasting belief in yourself that will move you from thinking that I should
believe in myself to knowing I should believe in myself.
2. With true love also comes respect, trust, honesty, and
forgiveness.
You
already love them. But as much as you love them, this alone won't stand. You
need to know that they are not perfect and they need to be forgiven. You need
to understand that being honest will only bring you closer. You need to endorse
it that respecting is not age limited. Above all, please know if there is
anything they demand from you is for you to trust them. These are just a
handful of elements that intricate a forever bond. There will be the emptiness
of time, the problems of distance, and the competition of this world! And just
loving someone is not entirely enough. You have to love them with all your
heart and soul. Always and forever.
1. Reality can be
sometimes more beautiful than dreams.
What we have might as well trump what we want. We just need to see it before it is too late. Life can be at times a dream with open eyes, and this might be our very own wonderland.
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